INFO ABOUT THE DAY OF SILENCE
Sponsored by GLSEN, the Gay, Lesbian and Straight Education Network, the National Day of Silence is a day of action in which students across the country take some form of a vow of silence to call attention to the silencing effect of anti-LGBT bullying and harassment in schools. Through their activities students can speak out against harassment and organize for change for their schools and communities.
The Day of Silence is a Tool for Change. Organizing a Day of Silence (DOS) activity or event can be a positive tool for change-both personally and community-wide. By taking a vow of silence, you're making a powerful statement about the important issue of anti-LGBT bullying. When you organize others to join you that message becomes louder and louder. You can use this attention as a building block in your plans for larger action. Find out more about the Day of Silence at the links below.
GLSEN is the nation's leading education organization working to assure that each member of every school community is valued and respected regardless of sexual orientation, gender identity or gender expression. GLSEN has been the official sponsor of the National Day of Silence since 2001. Learn more at GLSEN.org .
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For general inquiries about the Day of Silence or questions about organizing, contact: firstname.lastname@example.org.
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Join our campaign to Each day an estimated 160,000 students in the USA refuse to go to school because they dread the physical and verbal aggression of their peers, and the isolation that comes from being the target of rumors and cyber-bullying. Many more attend school in a chronic state of anxiety and depression. Bullying causes students untold suffering, marginalizes diverse youth and has led its targets to commit suicide and school shootings. Join us in taking a stand against bullying. No Bully is a non-partisan non-profit, founded to protect all students from suffering the abuse that so many of endured when we were at school. We partner with schools and school districts nationwide to implement the key building blocks to create bully-free learning communities. The strategies that we have developed stop bullying in 80 to 90 percent of cases, making these some of the most effective anti-bullying interventions ever.
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What is Bullying?
Bullying is a form of repeated aggression that is directed by one or more people towards another person. It tends to occur in places from which escape is difficult, including the workplace, prisons and in the family between siblings.
Our focus at No Bully® is the bullying that takes place at school. School bullying takes four main forms.
Physical bullying, where a student uses physical force to hurt another student by hitting, pushing, shoving, kicking, pinching or holding them down. Physical bullying also includes taking or breaking a student’s belongings or stealing or extorting money.
Verbal bullying is when a student uses words to hurt another student. This includes threatening, taunting, intimidating, insulting, sarcasm, name-calling, teasing, slurs, graffiti, put-downs and ridicule. It also includes hostile gestures such as making faces, staring, giving the evil eye, eye rolling and spitting.
Relational bullying occurs when students disrupt another student’s peer relationships through leaving them out, gossiping, whispering and spreading rumors. It includes when students turn their back on another student, giving them the silent treatment, ostracizing or scape-goating.
Cyberbullying refers to the use of cell-phones, text messages, e-mails, instant messaging, chats, blogs and social networking sites to bully another student in any of the ways described above. Examples of cyberbullying are sending threatening or insulting texts, posting untrue information or personal pictures about another student on social networking sites such as MySpace or Facebook, using another student’s email or IM name to send messages that make the student look bad, creating a web page devoted to putting down another student, forwarding a text or e-mail that was meant for your eyes only. Cyberbullying is on the rise and is as serious a problem in many schools as verbal and relational bullying.
When bullying is also harassment. Bullying is part of a continuum of aggression and violence, and at times may amount to harassment. Harassment occurs when a student is the target of threatening, disturbing or unwelcome behaviors because of a legally protected characteristic, such as disability, actual or perceived sexual orientation, gender or race. Sexual Harassment occurs when a student is asked for sexual favors or is the target of unwelcome sexual behavior which makes a student feel uncomfortable, scared or confused and which interferes with their schoolwork or ability to participate in school activities or attend classes.
Students are often bullied for reasons beyond those prohibited by anti-harassment laws. Particularly at risk are students who are perceived as gay or lesbian, or who do not conform to stereotypical gender expectations. Students are also targeted for not belonging to the majority race or class, because they have learning or other challenges, for being overweight or obese, less (or more) intelligent, athletic, attractive, confident or simply because they dare to be different. If we allow harassment and bullying to continue at our schools, we fail to protect the diversity of our children and ultimately our whole culture.
-- Steven Morris, Assistant Head of School, The San Francisco School
Vivian Paley, the first teacher to win the MacArthur Genius award
Costs of BullyingBelonging and safety are fundamental human needs. Bullying prevents students getting these needs met with by pushing them to the bottom of their peer group or isolating them entirely. The cost of our failure to stop bullying in our schools is enormous.
For the targets of bullying, who often endure their school years in a more or less permanent state of anxiety or depression, the effects include not only the cuts, bruises and wounding of physical assaults. Physical, verbal and relational bullying can result in reluctance to go to school and truancy, headaches and stomach pains, reduced appetite, shame, anxiety, irritability, aggression and depression. Bullying is a direct attack on a student’s status, belonging and core identity and often results in low self-esteem. The effects of bullying often continue many years into adulthood. In the most extreme cases, targets have taken out their anger and despair through school shootings or by committing suicide.
Students who habitually bully miss the opportunity to learn an alternative to aggression. Research tells us that they often develop a habitual tendency to abuse power and are increasingly shunned as they reach the higher grades. Approximately 25 percent of school bullies will be convicted of a criminal offense in their adult years.
The students on the sidelines (the "bystanders") commonly report extreme discomfort at witnessing bullying, but say that they do not know how to prevent it. Many are silenced by their fear that they will be the next target of bullying if they dare to speak out. Often they grow up believing that they are powerless to stop abusive behaviors in others.
For the school, the costs of bullying are countless hours consumed in tackling a problem that is resistant to change, truancies, reduced student retention, low teacher morale, negative perceptions of the school by the wider community and parent hostility. The school campus becomes a place where diverse youth are marginalized and where no-one feels safe. As students become alienated from school, academic performance declines. Schools are increasingly sued for failing to provide a safe learning environment and are being held liable for the harassment, violence and suicides caused by bullying.
For our society, the cost is our future. According to the Southern Law Poverty Center Annual Report (2010), hate groups are at their highest level ever. In an increasingly diverse society, we are becoming increasingly intolerant of diversity. We are creating a generation where self-interest and aggression are triumphing over kindness and co-operation.
Who we areNo Bully® is a San Francisco-based 501(c)(3) non-profit. We were founded free of any special interest and advocate for the ending of bullying and harassment of every student, whatever the cause. Our vision is to restore school as a place where students integrate the pursuit of their individual potential with kindness and compassion for all.
Please contact us to discuss how our program can help you reduce the bullying at your school and create a culture where every student feels included and accepted for who they are.
For a free initial consultation, call 415-820-3956.
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San Francisco, CA 94110
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